“Inside you, there’s a stillness and a sanctuary to which you’ll retreat at any time and be your self.” ~Hermann Hesse
After I work with people who find themselves affected by nervousness, worry, grief, or different difficult points, I wish to take them by means of a easy train I name “The Noticing Train.”
It’s my first port of name when serving to individuals break away from mind-created struggling.
It’s superb how rapidly, and effortlessly, individuals can transfer from struggling to peace, merely by means of shifting their focus to being conscious of the current second—noticing the feeling of the physique touching the chair, the ribs increasing on the in breath, or the sounds within the room.
Even deeply troubled people can expertise peace the very first time they do this easy meditation.
How is that this doable?
It’s as a result of peace is already there inside all of us. It’s an integral a part of who we’re. When the thoughts’s exercise subsides, even for a second, peace is what stays.
The ocean offers a great analogy.
On the floor, the water is continually in movement. It by no means stops, even for a second. However if you drop down into the depths, there’s stillness and peace.
It’s precisely the identical with the thoughts.
On the floor degree, the thoughts is at all times lively however, within the depths of our being, there’s a pure peace and stillness that’s unchanging… at all times current, at all times accessible. Being a part of our important nature, it may well by no means go away us.
Though this inherent peace is at all times there, it goes unnoticed in most individuals by means of the deep-seated behavior of giving our unique consideration to the floor actions of the thoughts.
We’re so pre-occupied with what’s occurring on the floor that we merely fail to see what’s occurring within the depths of our expertise.
And, in fact, there’s nothing ‘improper’ with any of this.
Spending our days misplaced in pondering is the human situation. It’s what all of us do.
Being swept away by the stressed waters of the thoughts is completely regular, notably once we are confronted with intense patterns comparable to nervousness, trauma, or grief. And but, the very fact stays that, regardless of appearances, there’s a peace inside each certainly one of us that’s untouched by what’s occurring on the floor, nevertheless intense it might be.
Withdraw your consideration from the thoughts, even for a second, and it’s there.
You don’t must create it; simply acknowledge what has at all times been there.
Peace doesn’t go away you. You permit peace.
Stress, nervousness, and unhappiness exist primarily within the type of ideas.
If you’ll be able to turn out to be absolutely current within the second, ideas subside, and stress and nervousness are changed by peace and stillness.
In fact, most individuals will choose up their painful tales once more as quickly because the meditation involves an finish, however the reality they have been in a position to be freed from their struggling, even quickly, offers us with clues for locating a extra everlasting answer.
With follow, anybody can be taught to withdraw their consideration from the thoughts for longer intervals of time and thereby lengthen the intervals of peace.
Have You Been Barking Up the Flawed Tree?
Most individuals are on the lookout for peace the place it may well by no means be discovered—not lasting peace anyway.
It’s a bit like shedding your keys in the home and on the lookout for them within the backyard.
You’re by no means going to search out them… as a result of they aren’t there.
Most individuals I assist have been looking for peace by means of the trail of self-improvement, usually for years.
And it makes complete sense.
If my thoughts is inflicting me hassle, then the apparent answer is to attempt to repair it—to ‘work on myself’ and attempt to convert all my anxious and sad ideas and emotions into nice, glad ones. Attempt to create a brand new, improved model of myself.
However, for those who’ve been down this path for any size of time, as I’ve, you’ll know that essentially altering the thoughts will not be really easy.
The issue with this strategy is encapsulated within the following quote from the Indian non secular trainer, Nisargadatta:
“There isn’t a such factor as peace of thoughts. Thoughts means disturbance; restlessness itself is thoughts.”
Just like the floor of the ocean, the thoughts is continually in movement. It’s stressed by nature.
And, though there could be fleeting moments of peace right here and there, they’ll inevitably be adopted by moments of agitation and disturbance.
Restlessness is the character of the thoughts. Attempting to make it calm and peaceable is like attempting to iron the floor of the ocean. It’s merely by no means going to occur.
Making Peace with The Thoughts Simply as It Is
To discover a answer that truly works, we should first perceive the true reason behind struggling. It’s not what most people assume.
Folks consider, as I did for years, that the anxious, disturbing, or fearful ideas themselves are the first reason behind struggling.
They consider that:
- the thoughts is damaged and must be mounted.
- nervousness, worry, confusion, and many others. are inherently unhealthy or improper.
- there’s one thing improper with them for having these ideas.
- they’ll’t expertise peace or happiness till they’re gone.
These beliefs are the principle cause individuals undergo.
Because the Jesuit priest Anthony de Mello stated:
“There’s just one reason behind unhappiness; the false beliefs you might have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so widespread, that it by no means happens to you to query them.”
What if, as a substitute of spending years attempting to repair the content material of the thoughts, we targeted as a substitute on making peace with the thoughts, simply as it’s?
What if, fairly than combating and resisting worry, unhappiness, envy, or confusion, you have been in a position to settle for them as pure expressions of the human situation?
What would occur to your nervousness for those who didn’t see something ‘improper’ with it?
Or your unhappiness for those who didn’t thoughts it being there?
They might nonetheless really feel disagreeable however, within the absence of resistance, they’d lose their energy to have an effect on your peace.
We will wrap our non-peace within the peace of acceptance.
You Don’t Have to Have a Peaceable Thoughts to Expertise Peace
On the trail of self-improvement, the purpose is to search out peace of thoughts.
However this strategy is unlikely to succeed just because the thoughts is stressed by nature.
Right here’s the reality:
You may’t cease bothersome ideas from arising, however you may cease bothering about them.
One among my lecturers used to say, “You undergo since you are open for enterprise.”
You entertain your ideas and invite them in for tea—interact with them, ruminate over them, wallow in them, play them again and again in your head—and create struggling for your self in consequence.
You don’t have to have a peaceable thoughts to expertise peace.
You want to cease giving your ideas a lot consideration and significance.
If you’ll be able to settle for no matter seems in your head, whether or not nice or disagreeable, with an angle of non-judgmental acceptance, you’ll at all times be at peace.
Acceptance is like kryptonite to the thoughts. It loses its energy to disturb your peace.
The Two Varieties of Peace
There are two kinds of peace.
There’s the sensation of peace, which is a short lived respite from feeling stressed or agitated. Like all emotions, it comes and goes, like clouds passing throughout the sky.
Then there’s the peace that exists within the depths of your being; the backdrop of peace that’s unchanging, ever-present, and has nothing to do with what’s going on in your head.
Even within the midst of probably the most turbulent storm at sea, within the depths, the ocean stays calm and unmoving.
There’s a peace inside each certainly one of us that continues to be untouched by the actions on the floor, regardless of how intense.
And it’s not tough to search out. How may or not it’s if it’s already who you might be?
You don’t want to repair or change something about your self to expertise what’s ever-present inside you.
You simply have to dive under the floor and uncover what’s at all times there.
The peace you might be on the lookout for is with you at all times. However you’ll by no means discover it on the extent of the thoughts.